| ||
| ||
|
||
|
|
|
The Problem With Affirmations
Do you know the problem with affirmations? You know, the really, really powerful ones? Affirmations are great. They allow us to program our minds such that, realistically, anything is possible. They are also, however, very dangerous. They are dangerous because everyone does them. Everyone does them and they don't even know it. And that's what proves their power. Every single day people affirm their actions. Every day the affirmations become reality. These affirmations are generally known as self fulfilling prophecies. Mary has to attend a party. She is shy and constantly tells herself that no one will like her and that she is worthless, a mere speck in relation to the fun and fantastic heavy weights that will be there. What happens at the party? Mary's talked herself into being a boring wall flower that no one finds interesting. Brian has to attend a job interview. He has been out of work for six months. He tells himself he is worthless and he can see no reason the employer would want to hire him. Guess what? You're right! Brian didn't get the job. Why? Because he came across as unsure and acted as though he'd already been denied the position. We do this to ourselves every single day. The more we tell ourselves we are unlikely to do something or can't do something the more we are setting ourselves up to fail. A prime example is the following quote, "I'm tired." Some of us (myself included at times) say it so much we talk ourselves into being tired. My advice? Stop the negative thoughts. Accept that if we tell ourselves we can't do it, we won't. Imagine the internal power if we can turn the constantly negative "I can't do it" thoughts into "I can do it and I will do it". You never know, you might just succeed. Try it for a day, then a week, then a month and then keep doing it and success will follow you. About the author: David McGimpsey is the host of a motivational and self help website at http://www.dontquit.org Advice, articles and reviews are free including subscription to a weekly motivational newsletter. David can be contacted at feedback@dontquit.org
MORE RESOURCES:
Positive-Attitude - Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
Today, A Wonderful Day Believe me, today is the most wonderful day of your life! You live in today; drink, dine, walk, talk, work and play today. Living today is not enough, make it a wonderful day for you. Believe It Or Not I am often astounded at what and why people believe what they do. I am sure that you too have noticed that some people believe in the oddest things. How To Stay Positive In spite of The Negativity Around You I'm often asked how it is that I stay so positive. Now allow me to clear up some misconceptions you might have based on that last statement. Free Tips To Increase Self-Esteem I have had many confidence issues in my life, all of which I have either dealt with or overcome. I have written about some of these issues below. Down On Your Luck? Heres How You Get Over The Hump! It's time to put a bad rumor to rest right now. Good things don't happen to you because you have "good luck. 11 Great Ways to be Positive about Change Look for the positives!Seek them out - those little scary places that it's challenging to let yourself go to - the positives are genuinely scary, because they give you hope and it's hard to let go of all the fears you have right now - so hanging onto them is the easiest path!So try letting yourself go, just for the heck of it!Take that step back from being 'done to' and take the initiative. At work, at home or wherever, this can be a great time, if you let it. Tips on Boosting Your Self-Confidence How you feel about yourself truly does affect your interaction with others.It truly saddens me when I hear women using negative talk when referring to themselves. What Every Employee Should Know About How to Maximize His Potential for Success There are countless books that describe success principles. Here are a few principles that I have summarized for you:* Believe in yourself, your abilities, and in your God-given yet unused talents. Our Worst Enemies Most of us love to think that our problems are the result of the actions or in-actions of others, economic conditions, timing and any number of other things outside our control. These things do in fact have a bearing on our situations. The Enchanted Self - Thats Each of Us! In my years as a psychologist, I have come to believe that most people seeking psychotherapy are unhappy. This is not only due to earlier hurts and traumas, as well as present frustrations and problems, but because they cannot access earlier happy moments often enough. How to Begin to Overcome Shyness The one thing that is absolutely vital to overcoming shyness is DESIRE. You must want to, badly. Its Okay to Be Negative Sometimes! Lately, I've been hearing that it's not okay to have negative thoughts.There's been a lot of talk about motivation, inspiration, positive energy channeling and such. Big Move to a Small Town I'm getting calls from folks who say, "I hear you moved to a very small town. I'm thinking of doing the same. Adding Meaning To Your Life You got up today to go to work, to come home, to battle with the kids, to go to bed. Tomorrow, you'll do the same thing again. From The WorkWise Collection: Transform Your Fears into Positive Power Fear is a double-edged sword. It can hold you back or drive you forward. Comparison - The Great Destroyer In speaking of comparison we need to be aware that we should never compare ourselves to others. No other person has our unique qualities. Beginners Programming 101 Recently a great idea popped into my head about creating a software program. Now, if the truth be told, I know absolutely nothing about computer programming. Life Issues Pt. 3 - An Attitude of Gratitude An Attitude of Gratitude. How important is this to you on your path to success? I sincerely believe that everyone should consider this simple but effective fact. An Unquestionable, Positive Demeanor - How to Maintain it Near the end of December 2004, I received an email from one of my colleagues that I had not heard from in awhile saying, "Donna, I'm wondering if I might have a moment of your time in the near future to ask you some questions about what I've observed to be your unquestionable, positive demeanor. Any time that I've encountered you, I've found your attitude is very infectious, and I'd like to talk to you about how you maintain it and where it springs from. Internet Tip of the Week: The Power of Positive Thinking The late Norman Vincent Peale was a controversial preacher who burst into public consciousness with his best-selling book, "The Power of Positive Thinking". He believed that ordinary people could become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things, and when they believe in themselves, they have the secret of success.
|
| home | site map |
| © 2006 |
